Tuesday, June 13, 2023

End of School fun / Boston & NYC / Kitten fostering

 The end of the school year comes with a lot of finishing celebrations and parties..

Jad finished up his 1st soccer season!
Here with Conor and Coaches Nancy and Adi

Kai also finished his soccer season.  They did pretty good this year and hopefully, much of the team will be able to stay together when the fall season rolls around.  Unfortunately, they did not have enough people to do the tournament this year so this was the last game they had together.

Kai's team and coach Hector

We haven't seen too much of Micah and his parents, Grace and Caleb recently but Michael celebrated his birthday recently and wanted Kai to come to Golfland with him.  The kids all had a lot of fun playing mini golf and arcade games as well.  Maybe next year, Kai will be in the same class as Micah!

Kids strikin' a pose


Arcade games!

We hosted the Rock Canyon surgical garage party this past month and it was a great success.  We had a bunch of people come by and hang out in the driveway, lit up a bonfire and hung out late into the evening.

I love our neighborhood :)

Jad had a lot of fun days during the last week of school, including Donuts for Dads.  He was very proud to show me his class as well as the food that he had gotten me.  What a sweet kid :)

I think that's supposed to be me on the brown
bag though I don't think he's ever seen me in a tie :D

Donuts for Dads .. or Jad?

Summertime means that kids being at home more which means less time for Amy and I.  I suppose we could enroll them in more full day camps but we want them to relax during the two months of summer as well so mostly we have them in a few activities with empty weeks in between.  

Amy and I squeezed in one last lunch date before summer
vacation started :)

Sora and Kai have both been practicing their class dances for the Noble Dance Festival.  Kai spoke for his class and their dance had a Super Mario Theme with the song "Peaches", a current favorite on the home speakers as well.  Sora had a more complex dance with a western theme.  

Sora was very proud/anxious to be chosen to
be in front during the dance.

Kai did a great job announcing his
class dance and was excited for the Mario Theme

Earlier this year, I got a notice about our 20th(!) year reunion for medical school.  I didn't really think too much about going because I'm already in touch with many of the people that I want to stay in touch with and it was also during the last week of school for the kids so they wouldn't want to go.  I happened to mention it to David, Amy's brother, and he said he wanted to go to Boston because he's a big history buff and also was listening to a biography of JFK.  So, we decided to go together and tie it with a trip to NYC to visit Harsha and others as well.  Honestly, it was a really nice vacation.  I love the kids but when I'm with them, so much of my attention is thinking about them that it's hard to be mindful of other things.  I was able to look at interesting sights and people, wander without much direction and stay up late and wake up on my own time.  It was very relaxing and I have to thank Amy for letting me go while she took care of the kids.  She's a much better parent than I am though with more patience for the kids' shenanigans and difficulties.  I did get very lucky with her.  Some highlights..

Having some clam chowda in a Bahston bahr :D

Walkin' the freedom trail

I spent the most time with Jean and Suzanne and it was really nice to catch up with all of them.  Again, it was nice to be able to hang out without worrying about the kids.  I also caught up with some others.. people are doing amazing things, founding companies, working for pharma, research.  I told everyone, in all honestly, that I am having a hard time just trying to be a good dad and husband :p

So good to see Jean and Suz

One of the formal dinner events I didn't go to :p

It was so cold and rainy on the quad..
odd weather for June 

I was also able to catch up with old friends.  I loved walking by the old homestead (1347 Beacon St!) and Coolidge Corner and especially the Brookline Booksmith, which is just a spectacular local book store.  We met up with Sagar and his girlfriend Johanna and their new dog.  And I was able to visit Dave Tytell and Adam Badik, friends from high school who have relocated to Boston.  

Hanging out in the basement of the Booksmith

I've known Dave since 7th grade

The old apartment, now above Wild Goose Chase

We managed to hit the greats in Boston including getting a Lobster roll, cannoli from Mikes pastry, visiting some famous gravestones and sites, running around the Charles river and catching a Red Sox game at Fenway Pahk :)

Site of the Boston Massacre

Attended an Episcopal service at
the Trinity Church

Getting ice cream at JP Licks

My 2nd Red Sox game at Fenway.. Thanks for
getting us tickets, Suz!

After three days in Boston, David and I took the Amtrak to NYC to meet up with Harsha, who was himself just getting back from Rwanda.  I spent three days wandering Manhattan and then left to come back home while David stayed for the week.

Wandering the West Village

June is Gay Pride month so there were rainbows
everywhere.. the famous Stonewall park/area

A designer skater clothing/brand store that we stopped in..
I thought it was funny that real skaters probably couldn't
afford anything that was shown here

A view from the roof bar of CitizenM hotel

One of the coolest places we discovered was the Museum of Street Art.  Not a traditional museum in any sense, it was basically a small stairwell of the CitizenM hotel that was given to these artists to graffiti/paint in to celebrate the street art of the 5 points area.  It was super cool and each floor has a different artist with different style and methods.  Super neat space.

MoSA!

Bball players

Night scene in the Bowery

some nice lettering

I like how they used the light to cast
a shadow in the art here

On the 1st floor of the hotel there was also a great cafe/bar
space where we hung out and did some serious dudes talk

We also caught up with friends who have settled in the city and Brooklyn over the subsequent days and saw a few cool sights before I headed back home to reality :)

Caught up with Jeff and Greg

Also, saw Mei Li along with Daniel and his
girlfriend, Gabby and met Miryam, Harsha's good friend

Standing on the streets looking for dessert :)

Nice exhibit on Darwin's letters at
the New York Public Library

Prometheus bringing fire down from Olympus

We also happened to be there when the smoke from wildfires in Canada blew down and covered everything.  It wasn't as bad as it was in California a few years ago but still did give a very post apocalyptic vibe to the city.

Hazy Time Square

Red Empire State Sun

I got back for the kids last days of school and, this week, we're in full summer mode.  Sora and Jad are doing VBS this week for the mornings while Kai is at home with Amy most days. I have a lot of work this week to make up for the days I was away.  We've also had a lot of cat drama while I was gone.  Mama cat got caught, spayed and released the day before I left and while I was gone, we used the airtag tracker to find the kittens.  Turns out they were in our backyard all along, hidden underneath the ferns in a corner!  The day I flew back, everyone corralled the kittens and caught them all and we sheltered them in our downstairs bathroom.  Since then, they have been to the vet and shelter where we were told they have to grow more to be adopted out and also socialized so they are friendlier as well so that's why we have 4 kittens in our house now.

The kids love them, of course.  They already named them:
Kiwi, Pepper, Shadow and Popper

Kiwi is the smallest and friendliest.  She was the runt of the litter
and semi-abandoned by mom

We set up a camera to watch them without bothering them too much

They are slowly becoming more friendly

Kiwi (named by Sora) is the smallest but also bravest and will come up to get petted.  I think she latched on to us because mom had left her behind for a bit.  Shadow (named by Kai) is the biggest but still shy along with Popper (who was named by Jad and I).  Pepper (named by Amy) is the spiciest of the group and will often hiss but she's getting better too.  We already told the kids that we're not keeping any of them but it's still fun to foster them for a bit, even if our house smells like the pet store :p

Til next time!

Monday, June 12, 2023

Nearing the end of school

Oh man, I thought I had published this entry but I guess I didn't finalize it.  School just let out a few days ago but we'll pretend we're back in time for two weeks ... 

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 We're just a couple weeks away from the end of school.  Also the ending of soccer season for Kai and Jad :)  Lots of fun as the weather warms up!

Vic and Kegan went out of their kids had a sleepover
at our house.  AT joned in for the fun but didn't stay to sleep

They all fit into Sora and Jad's room.. asleep by 10!

One of Kai's soccer teammates, Logan, is in Scouts so we took Kai to the Scout-o-rama, where they have many booths from different troops, all showing off various skills and crafts.  The experience was colored because the bottle rocket thing failed and then they lost our rocket but it was enough to get some interest from Kai and we're going to try to go to one of Logan's troop events later this year.  Hopefully, he'll like it.  We really want him to find something he's more interested and passionate about.

Cool rocket but then the mechanism failed :(

Kai turned 10 (double digits!) and had several birthday parties: one with neighbors, one with school/church friends and one with family.  He's still a very sweet boy but getting older and more thoughtful.  Sensitive and introverted, we hope we are doing a good job allowing him to grow in some ways on his own and pushing him a bit i others.  Happy birthday, Kai!

Water balloons and gun fight!

Rainbow Jello and Brownies with candles

Neighbor's celebration with brownies too
(Amy accidentally made a 4X batch)

Sora is continuing in gymnastics.  Noe advanced to another level so Sora is working hard to catch up.  She has fun with it but doesn't really practice on her own much.  Again, we'd love to find something our kids are really passionate in but until then, we'll just keep encouraging the things they enjoy and learn from.

Upside down


Action shot of Sora and Jad racing 
during Kai's soccer practice

Kai has also been doing well with violin.  He had an end of year concert and it was really nice.  He is starting lessons, that he wanted on his own, with our neighbor, Jackie, this summer.

Looking sharp, dude

The kids are looking forward to the summer time as they think it'll mean unlimited video game / screen time but we'll probably still keep them restricted to some degree :)  Til next time, everyone!



Tuesday, May 9, 2023

Summer preview and various motley pics // Date night // Nik's Mom

 I haven't posted for the last few weeks.  Mostly because it's been pretty quiet and we haven't been up to too much.  Just soccer for the boys and gymnastics / piano for Sora.  Girl Scouts Cookie season ended finally, much to Amy's relief as cookie chair.  A few notable pics below..


We had nice Easter get together with the South SJ
small group.  Easter egg hunt!

David got a giant paella pan and burner
so he made us a massive paella

Ethan has been coming over on Sunday afternoons
for playdates so that's been fun

A nice FriYay dinner with the usual RCC crew.  The fire
pit made a comeback now that it's not raining all the time

We joined the Shaws and watched the 
Mario Bros movie in the theater :)
A special treat in contrast to streaming at home

A nice day on RCC during spring break

Kite flying weather :)

Adults ate while the kids played

Terry and Trang (mostly) finished their crazy 
remodel, including a whole new Karaoke setup

Sora sold cookies with her troop at Lucky's

Jad is having lots of fun at soccer

Kai is doing great this season.  Getting a bit more aggressive
at going after the ball.  He's scored a couple goals too!

My soccer boys


The kids also helped me set up a couple garden boxes
in the front yard.  Jad was very excited to plant :)

Kai is still doing Jujitsu.  I'm not sure how much 
he really likes it.  I never want to push the kids so
hard for something we want, rather than what they want

We have also had a bit of cat drama.  About two weeks ago, we noted that Sesame was bringing a friend around more often.  A little gray feral cat so we've been giving it a bit of food as well but it never allowed us to get close.  Then last week, Amy saw the gray cat in the carrier we had set outside and it was staying there for most of the day.  A closer look revealed four little kittens!  There were so cute and looked like little rats.  The kids were entranced as expected, especially Sora.  We continued to feed mama cat what we could, figuring she could use the calories while nursing the babies, though she hissed at us every time we came close.

mama cat eating

We tried to leave it alone as much as possible, but it was hard as she was right at our front door.  The few days, we've seen the mama cat wandering around more, leaving the kitties behind for a short time.  And then 2 days ago, it looked like she had moved them behind our nearby AC unit.  Yesterday, I checked there and they weren't there anymore so she must have moved them again.  It made us a bit sad but we did everything we could to try to help her.  She is still coming by a couple times a day and when she does, we give her some food.  The kids have a plan to track her and find the kittens if possible.

I snuck a pic of the kitties when mom was out

Amy and I also had a date night.  The Kimballs babysat the kids in thanks for us hosting small group every couple of weeks.  We went to get tapas at Vida in Mountain View (nice place, fairly good food, a bit pricey but mostly it was nice to be out without the kids) and then went to a performance at a local theater.  It was very small and neat to see something the kids probably wouldn't sit through.  It was a series of 9 short acts, some were mediocre and some were good.  The actors were amateurs and likely had day jobs with this as their passion project.  It's unlikely that they made any money from putting on the shows and likely had to contribute their own money to keep the doors open.  Still, it was fun and a nice reminder to follow your dreams even if you have a day job :)

Viva la Vida

The Pear Theater

There has also been a lot of turmoil at work.  One of our beloved nurses, John Muncy, passed away.  He had been having some medical problems but still a shock for someone so young.  Then our ED chief, Joel, decided to step down and there will be a search for a new leader for the dept soon.  All this along with some conflict and grumblings about our schedule and scheduler.  Hopefully, some positive changes coming as I work to help steer us in the right direction.

Lastly, my mom passed away on 4/27,just over a week ago now.  She's been sick the last few days, even more so than her usual state, and I was already worried about her.  She had a fever and oxygen levels were low, maybe some aspiration.  I'd been waking up at night and checking LINE to see messages from my dad and he said on that day, her oxygen level gradually went down and she went to sleep.  The doctors asked if they should put her on a ventilator but he declined, which I am glad for.  She slept and then passed away in the evening.  It's been a long time coming over all so it didn't hit me hard, just bits of sadness here and there.  I am grateful that she went without struggle and that she is no longer suffering.  I've compartmentalized it to one part of life and have been carrying on but I think it's probably leaking out in the form of some insomnia and loss of patience.  We've been checking in with my dad.  He's always laconic and stoic, as older Asian men tend to be, but you can tell he's lost a part of himself.  He's likely to keep moving though and eventually will find something to work on to anchor him again. I do have to video chat with him and the kids which I think he really enjoys.

My mom never believed in much of an afterlife, just that when you died, you ceased to exist and I respect that.  I do know that if anyone deserved to get into Heaven or Nirvana or whatever paradise of your naming, then my mom certainly did.  Rest now, mom, you were great and we loved you very much.

My mom and us